Deciding to let go of past regrets is difficult, but the only way to move forward and embrace life fully. Living in the moment requires work and a commitment to be present every day. I suggest reading Elkhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now. Staying connected to the present provides a means of putting the past behind. I won’t kid you. It’s hard work, but well worth it.
Years ago, I bought a book by Jon Kabat-Zinn because I liked the title, Wherever You Go, ,There You Are.This was more than a decade before mindfulness became the popular trend, but this title spoke to me. I have to admit I’m reading the book with new eyes this time. My husband and I are now empty nesters and life is slower than it was when I first read it; therefore, it has taken on new meaning for me at this stage in my life.
Life is a journey. Some people appear to take a direct path to find their purpose. Others of us, and I do mean me, take a lot of scenic side trips along the way. Some good, some not so good. But the choices we make help define us. They can strengthen us or break us. I learned to reach out for help when I felt like I was breaking, and some amazing people held me up until I could stand on my own again. I hope I can say I’ve passed this kind of help to others.
Embracing the next stage in my life and learning to move on from my past decisions has not been easy. And, honestly, the past still rears its head occasionally. But it’s becoming more distant and less controlling. I’m not where I thought I would be at this time in my life, but I’m choosing to let go of the what ifs and love the life I have. It’s a good life. Being mindful of what I have and learning to appreciate my life has freed me.
I hope you’ll let go of your regrets and whatever is keeping you from being the person you are meant to be. Choose strength. It’s worth the hard work.